I had a wonderful discussion with my friend today regarding my post. He is an amazing person who has the incredible ability to just listen and really hear what is going on underneath the surface. If you haven’t figured out yet, most of the time when something is bothering us, it is usually not the problem we are focused on. It is something much deeper. If you really think about it, we have on a small number of basic emotions. Sadness, happiness, guilt, jealousy,etc… Once you can identify the emotion, then you can address it and resolve it. The reason why it becomes so complicated is because we begin to attach several different problems into one bundle. It becomes confusing and jumbled, and very hard to identify what the core issue is.

 

If you want to workout, and you tell yourself that you cannot workout until you buy new snickers, and you don’t have enough money to buy shoes, so you can’t buy shoes until you get a better job, and you can not get a better job until you have been with the company for 6 months. Now you are continually getting farther and farther away from your goal. Many of us do this on a constant basis, It is called the HAVE, DO, BE  complex. (the unofficial term) When I Have this, I’ll Do that and I’ll Be Better.  It can go so far, that we don’t even remember what is the real problem.

For example: I spoke to my friend about my boxing.  I was so confused, and when we spoke for a moment, he pointed out what was happening to me. I had an image of what boxing had to be. A very narrow image of what I thought it has to be like. What Ihave to be like. I put so many restraints on what I thought it had to be, that the pressure was doing the exact opposite. I want to become a professional because I enjoy doing it, and I would love to challenge myself and see how far my mind will take my body.  But I built up so much pressure of how I needed to be that I was no longer enjoying myself anymore. It became painful rather than rewarding. I had to fix my finances before I can fight. I can’t train because I need to focus on my finances. Once I fix y finances then I can box. Now I have attached boxing with bad finances. So even if I do fix them, they will decline again once I start training. I enjoy the training, the rigorous workouts, pushing myself. Knowing I enjoy that, I  know the only difference was my mindset.  Once I was able to release those thoughts, I immediately felt a huge sense of release, and the urge to return to the gym. My friend suggested to let life show me what it has in store for me. ( Again I wrote a post about that the other day.) So I will let boxing show me what boxing has in store for me. For now, I am just going back to the gym to do what I love. And the rest of my life and finances will remain in a good state.

I know that there are only a hand-full of people who read this post, but I want to encourage you to send any of these posts to a friend. I feel like I am on a roll, progressing so rapidly  and having epiphanies on a daily basis. I would like to share my journey and hopefully bring some people along.  I know I keep this post anonymous, but I like to share my thoughts even though I don’t share my name.  Maybe some of you are going through some of these same revelations and I would love to hear you stories and your thoughts.

Have a wonderful day !